In one of our recent end-of-day conversations, Kristine introduced me to the concept of radical acceptance. For some reason I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind, and I think it’s a good approach to life for Fry Lodge these days; so I’m sharing with the Fry Lodge Faithful.
The opportunities for practicing radical acceptance are endless at Fry Lodge. Take breakfast, for instance.
Here’s an excerpt from a 2012 article from Psychology Today that explains the concept for those interested.
Radical acceptance is about accepting of life on life’s terms and not resisting what you cannot or choose not to change. Radical Acceptance is about saying yes to life, just as it is.
People often say, “I can’t stand this,” “This isn’t fair,” “This can’t be true,” and “This shouldn’t be this way.” It’s almost as if we think refusing to accept the truth will keep it from being true or that accepting means agreeing. Accepting doesn’t mean agreeing.
It’s exhausting to fight reality and it doesn’t work. Refusing to accept that you were fired for something you didn’t do, that your friend cheated you, or that you weren’t accepted into college you wanted to attend doesn’t change the situation and it adds to the pain you experience.
Accepting reality is difficult when life is painful. No one wants to experience pain, disappointment, sadness or loss. But those experiences are a part of life. When you attempt to avoid or resist those emotions, you add suffering to your pain. You may build the emotion bigger with your thoughts or create more misery by attempting to avoid the painful emotions. You can stop suffering by practicing acceptance.